Angela Kelsey

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Reading Magic and Loss

Filed in Books :: July 30, 2017

Over the past few years, I’ve read fewer books than ever before, and of those books, even less fiction. I’ve said that the internet has melted my brain, wrecked my attention span. Or maybe the problem is my 50-something vision, or my glasses, or the quality of the light by my bed. I listen to […]

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The Abuser’s Knack

Filed in Body Image, Dating Violence, Domestic Violence :: July 23, 2017

Batterers and abusers have an uncanny knack for sizing up others’ vulnerabilities–one of the reasons we stay too long is that they underscore doubts that are already in our own heads. The most powerful ones, those most ready for the abuser’s exploitation, are the ones we worry about with private shame. A little insecurity about […]

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And here we are.

Filed in Journey :: July 17, 2017

I started blogging right after President Obama’s inauguration, participating in optimism and a sense of community here and in my little corner of the early days of Twitter. Vice President Biden championed victims of domestic violence and sexual assault and the Violence Against Women Act was strong and enforced. But life–my life, your life, the life […]

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Grey Area

Life is easier, in some ways, when things are neatly divided into them/us, bad/good, never/always boxes. When those boxes crumble, when the lines between certainties blur, our assumptions and givens shake. Things get trickier and more interesting. A few box-crumbling events have happened in my world over the past few years: a friend’s husband was […]

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A Pinch of Salt

Filed in Speak out, Spirituality, Stories, Travel :: January 13, 2015

When Mr. Z. and I were in Paris last month, our hosts, the Scotts, took us to one of their favorite restaurants, Chez Denise. Even though my own lunch was delicious and satisfying, I openly coveted the os á moelle that the French couple next to us ordered.  My companions, veterans of French food and committed to their […]

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Pet and Women Safety Act

Filed in Domestic Violence, Politics :: October 8, 2014

When you live with an abusive partner, it’s hard to imagine leaving your pets with him if you move out, even temporarily. Congresswomen Ileana Ros-Lehtinen (R-FL) and Katherine M. Clark (D-MA) have cosponsored The Pet and Women Safety Act. Here’s Ros-Lehtinin with her office dog, Maya.

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Talk, talk

Filed in Current Affairs, Dating Violence, Domestic Violence :: September 23, 2014

The Ray Rice “story” and (thanks in part to the NFL’s clumsy, clueless handling of its role) the media’s continued coverage of it is strange in a “wow” kind of way: people are talking about a sometimes taboo subject that I raise whenever I can. Sometimes talk is only gossip, or herd mentality, or meaningless Facebook likes and […]

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Dear Janay Palmer Rice

Filed in Current Affairs, Dating Violence, Domestic Violence :: September 11, 2014

Dear Janay Palmer Rice, I’m not an NFL wife, but from 1999-2007, I was abused by my husband, a charismatic man with a lot of friends who bordered on fans. Today is the seventh anniversary of my divorce. I totally understand that the last thing you want right now is to be the centerpiece of […]

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College Brides Walk

Filed in Dating Violence, Domestic Violence, Speak out :: February 16, 2014

On Valentine’s Day, I walked in the College Brides Walk to raise awareness about domestic and dating violence and to commemorate the life and death of Gladys Ricart, who was murdered on her wedding day by an ex-boyfriend. That’s me dressed in white in the middle of the picture (Mr. Z said he didn’t know I […]

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How do you know?

You probably know the story: Dylan Farrow’s open letter to Woody Allen. Woody Allen’s op-ed response. When I read Dylan Farrow’s letter, I was sure that she was telling the truth. I’ve heard enough victims of child sexual abuse write about the pain of their experience and the aftermath on IRL that I am familiar with survivors’ shame, reticence, and […]

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